Christian sexual chat
This lie is especially dangerous for survivors of sexual abuse.
“There’s this deep fear within the purity movement that if you ‘give yourself away’ or ‘let someone else in,’ you’ll be damaged for your future marriage,” Anderson said. Our responses to events, both positive and negative, shape who we are as people.
One way to do this would be by contributing healthy ideas about sex and marriage. Here are a few ways Christian leaders could stop being part of the problem when it comes to sexual stigmatization and shaming, instead helping their audience become more enlightened and empowered when it comes to sexuality. Or is it just vaginal intercourse with cisgender heterosexual penises and vaginas?
Once you’ve had sex, you’re no longer a virgin – at least, that’s what some in the church would like you to believe. In fact, the idea that virginity is a biological event is inherently flawed, a social construct that works to uphold purity culture.
It’s common for some conservative Christian authors to describe men as “wild,” relinquishing any responsibility for a man’s “wandering eyes.” Yes, some even go as far to say “dateable girls shut up.” This gender stereotypical nonsense is nonsense. Sex and love aren’t even the only reasons some people get married.But there isn’t a reason that’s specific to any gender.Although not always explicitly, women have been encouraged to forgive and even stay with unfaithful or abusive husbands.We’ve heard it all before: “If a man lies with another man as he lies with a woman, he is an abomination.” Many churches still hold onto theology that condemns same-sex intimacy and polices queer individuals who don’t appease the church’s sexual ethical standards.This shame-filled narrative holds that sex is only for straight cisgender people, essentially erasing LGBTQIA people from the narrative altogether.