Dating rules tips

I’d like to know your rules for having a friends with benefits arrangement.

I’m not looking to be in a relationship right now, but I’m only human and I have needs.

If you notice strong negative reactions coming up in him… Even if you are great at following the first six rules, everything will come apart if you choose a guy who isn’t emotionally stable.

This means he’s a guy that isn’t emotionally volatile (as in, he doesn’t explode into anger, he doesn’t pressure you with demands, he doesn’t get jealous, he’s not a trouble-magnet in his own life, he’s not vindicative) and he’s got his life in order (he’s not depressed, his own life isn’t filled with drama or problems and he makes level-headed decisions). people with problems always find a way to suck other people into them…

Yes, I’d be happy to share the best friends with benefits rules so you can hook up without things being complicated.

This is a recipe for disaster in a friends with benefits type of relationship since it’s easy to slide from wanting to fill a void into making a friends with benefits arrangement into something more. and whole, then your focus needs to be on living your life where you’re 100% in touch with your grounded, stable, ever-present sense of being OK you bring any sort of relationship into the picture (whether it’s a friends with benefits arrangement or any other type of relationship dynamic). You’re not looking for (and you won’t have) a “happy ending”…

This doesn’t mean that you’re cold, distant or treat them like an object. If you follow rule #5, you will most likely avoid this entirely. You’re not bringing your problems into it and neither is he. Similarly, you are not arguing with each other or putting expectations on one another.

It simply means that you limit how you relate to them… If you notice strong negative feelings coming up in yourself, it’s time to end it. With all this in mind, this is why the next rule is super important…

This rule is what makes the difference between a fun, light, satisfying FWB situation…

and a messy, disastrous, regretful relationship situation.

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