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“So I did what a lot of marginalized people do—I pretended I wasn’t different.” Related: By the time she was ready to be sexually active, Trace was no longer in a wheelchair.
But she was using two canes to walk, and still had to contend with bladder and bowel issues.
By 19, she’d fallen into a pattern of only making out with men when she was drunk.
Still, that confidence didn’t translate to her day-to-day life outside the pool.
For years after Kaleigh Trace, 30, sustained an incomplete spinal cord injury at age 9–which landed her in a wheelchair and affected her mobility, sensation, and bladder control–she received absolutely zero information about sex.
“There wasn’t a lot of [sex ed], especially in rural Canada.
I guess we had one day when we were brought to the gym [to learn].
But I didn’t attend gym classes,” says Trace, who’s now an educator at Halifax sex shop Venus Envy and author of get wet. The things some people say will feel good won’t necessarily feel good for me,” says Trace.